Monday, September 22, 2008

Father/Dad/Baba/Yuba ....


Do you feel you have the perfect father? What I mean by perfect is the kind of father who is understanding, caring, helping, friends and the list is endless...

Something really made me love my dad more yesterday. Let me tell you I never had a strong relation with my dad comparing to my mom. I am always closer to my mom but still keep a distance because my mom gets too emotional at times and sharing with her my hard times kind of turns against me. So to avoid the back fire I tell mom the much she can take it.

On the other hand my dad being very understanding but was always away from me. He would sit and talk to my sisters for hours and I was left alone. He always used to criticize me by saying he doesn't knows how to dress, how to eat, how to sit, he doesn't studies well. Well part of that was true but I never got that encouragement a son would need. Let’s say it this way that we were never friends till his retirement. Living in the same house we often never use to see or even greet each other. Even for my pocket money back in school days I used to ask my mom for which he used to get pissed off. I don't know what was the reason behind all this but I feel its because all his life he spent to establish his career and which he finally achieved. What was the end result? - A better future for his kids and family. Note that my dad comes from under middle class family but his hard work gave him a status for which everyone looks at him with respect and especially me being his only son.

So apart from all what I used to get from him I always had this thing that I want to have a very high name and I want to work hard. When I moved back to Kuwait after completing my education in London dad wanted me to help him in his business and I was against it. So I moved out and used to get the usual blames what will people say that the son of a business man is working in this company and how will he survive in a job of few hundred and all that usual. My hard work proved him wrong. But still I am not here to tell that my father was wrong. I am here to tell you that how proud I am to be his son.

Last year after his retirement he handed me over the business and said this business is yours. You keep it ... you sell it or close it that is up to you. We had a deal as I wanted to take the business in a hard way and not the easy way so it all went well. But today when I look back at my success in life there is only one person who I can give 100% credits too and that person is my father and my parent’s prayers. I feel I am closer to him after his retirement. I feel I love him more. I feel when I talk he listens. He is always there to give me advises. His words are stronger than before. He trusts me more than anyone of my other siblings. He has made me forget all the past years and made me feel so proud of him. Today when I walk near the office the respect I get from the people there is more than an honor. I have no words to express my love for him. I am so proud to have a father like him.

41 comments:

Grey said...

Yey! first one to comment !

God bless your Daddy man ! Such a Gentleman !

3anooda said...

dammit and i thought i was gonna have shotgun - anyways

i find that in general boys are always closer to the mothers and girls are closer to the dads. that the way it is in our house as well. im so close to my dad that even when im going out i ask his permission and not my mom. even if my mom was home and my dad was out i will call him and give him all the details. and then just tell my mom bye without any details.

its weird. human nature never ceases to surprise me

..::Amu::.. said...

Grey: your first comment was so touchy...man I hope you get back to a stable relationship :) thanks...

3anooda: yes but why cant the love be equal to both the kids from both parents :)

Anonymous said...

Mashallah .. : )

i was so touched while reading ur post that i don't even know what to say ..

i really hope that this relationship would get even stronger and last forever between u and ur parents : )

May Allah bless you.

3anooda said...

amu it is equal. its just showed in different ways. ur dad will spend more time with ur sisters yet it is you who gets the reigns to the business. it is u who is the man of the house after him.

PS. I invented my own tag. I need answers.
http://3anooda.blogspot.com/2008/09/strange-day-work-completely-useless.html

Hellraiser said...

It is great to see that you have ironed out your issues, me and my dad had our fall outs and as we both grew older we realised that its better to communicate than to argue. Good Job man!

..::Amu::.. said...

Anonymous: thanks :)

3anooda: Its not a tag its like a story in a day :D

Hellraiser: thanks :) I guess this is the best solution to communicate..it sorts out alot of issues...

3anooda said...

i need to vent and rant oo af9il - laish za3lan int?? LOL

Mar8adoosh said...

mashala allah ytamim 3alaikum ur tho thweet hubby ;p

Ana I'm very close to my mum ya3ni of course I love my dad bas madre there's mako this special thing ;/ ana wiya my mum waaaaayed akthar

..::Amu::.. said...

3anooda: keep ranting :D its good for health on some days ;p

..::Amu::.. said...

Mar8adoosh: thank you :) aww thats so sweet. God bless you mom :) No doubt I always keep saying that I wana talk to her ;p

DrD Says said...

wish u and ur family good luck:)...

mo3ath said...

الله يخليه لك ويطول بعمره ويحفظه

علاقتي مع ابوي بالفتره الاخيره صارت وايد حلوه ، ماكان فيها شي قبل بس توه يشوفني اني كبرت وصرت شايله مسؤولية وامس يقولي يلا ابي ازوجك وافرح فيك :)

Aurous said...

allah y6wl 3omrah w y5alleh lekom :)

I see that the father is always harder on his older/only son because he has very big hopes for him..
and let's face it.. sons tend to disappoint their father when they're young, but daughters rarely do...

you've proven yourself to your father and made him proud ^_^

Anonymous said...

sweet! :)

Allah ekhaleekom el ba3ath

Missy said...

I love dadsssss <3

MeeMzZ said...

wish u and ur family good luck;p

Allah ekhaleekom el ba3ath...;p hehehehe

ĐǻñĎõøðñ said...

allah e5aleekom 7g ba3ath ya rab :)

anamethystworld said...

Allah ykhaleekum 7ag ba3ath

Ansam said...

Both my parents are pretty cool and el7emdila i have good relations with both and I go to each one for different things hehehehe ya3ni you have to know when, who, what to ask LOL

Big Pearls said...

ooooh that's a very touching post..god bless your father:)

Sh7afana said...

mashalah.. allah ekhaleeeh lek enshalah we6awelek eb 3umra..

and to answer ur question.. yes :) .. i do have a perfect father..

icon said...

I wish I can be that close to my father. He's always busy with life and work or he's just taking a rest away from everything. That is bullcrap. So lucky you!!

Balqees said...

awwwwwwwwwwwwwww

i have kinda the same relationship with my dad, my sistrs always talk to him and hug him and blah blah and i used to tell my mom eno i know baba doesn't like me, till one day when i knew that my dad likes me more than my sistrs and that me and him are so alike, u see my dad has a heart so 7anoooon u can never imagine and he can love u to death but not know how to show it or xpress it, and recently my mom told me that i'm the same, i can loove u but i do't know how to show it to u ....

M.D said...

Fathers are always like that ..
you should always trust & believe no matter what .. your father & mother love you & wants you to be the best .
well some times they try to push their kids to the top so quick by the same mean their parents did .. we may think that they just hate us by saying .. study , walk well , dress good , making fun of us ..etc. but it's all for the best .

hope we as the new generation raise our kids to be the best too but in more modern way .

intlxpatr said...

Wow, Amu, that is one of the most beautiful, poignant posts you have ever written. I imagine your Father is also feeling very proud, and very happy to have you for a son.

Well done, with the business, by the way. Well done.

Lavender said...

(( I am not here to tell that my father was wrong. I am here to tell you that how proud I am to be his son ))


i guess that tells us everything
and am sure that ur father is so proud of you :)

Technogal said...

Allh ykhalekom elba3a`6
They always say el bent bent oboha wilwalad wild omah :) until you grow up you find your self more on your father side. man to man fahmeen ba3ath.
God bless your father and your mother of course!
Well.. as for me I am close to both mom and dad. and its also differ a bit depending on the situation.

ZuZu said...

Allah ykhaleeh lek :)

desertpalms said...

aww man =( thats really reaally sweet

allah yikhelkm 7ag ba3ath..nd ur mum as well hehe

i lovee my popss..most in the world, even more than my mum =$

we have this saying hehe

omak thoma omak thoma omay BAS AWAL ABOOK

LOOOOOOOOOL

we're really really similar, we think the same, we have the same traits and characteristics, we can talk about so many things i wouldnt be able to talk to with my mum. and hes my perfect role model, i look up to him so much and hes my first place for advice.

babatiiii habeeebi and im his favourite child hehehehe =P and everyone knows it

wooo long comment..i can talk all day about my pops =P

desertpalms said...

omak*

Oranjina fadidra said...

first of all, Cheese

dude that was too innocent even for you lol

Yara said...

woooow :) loved this post... Allah ykhalih lek o y6awel eb 3omra o yshof ur grandchildren enshala... both him and ur mom enshallah... I always was closer to my dad than my mom, i could tell him anything.. as i grew older and became a mom myself, i started to be closer with my mom too

Sham3at Al Jillas said...

That was so touching... I am sure you are envied for such trust and respect, mashallah.

But I have one question though, why do boys have to keep distances from their fathers as teens? My brothers used send me to negotiate their affairs with my father.

sugar said...

i'm seeing my self in this post;P i knw what u mean....

Abi-Omi-Abi-Oboy said...

Mashalla... Alla ehaneekom eb ba3ath inshalla... That was so heartfelt, nice post :)

Squirreliya said...

yay mashAllah ..am sure he is proud of you now

Allah ykhaleelik eyah :)

..::Amu::.. said...

DrD: thanks and welcome here :)

mo3ath: maskoor O5oy :)

Aurous: Ameen...

Anonymous: Ameen..

Missy: aww so sweet...Allah ekhaleekom el ba3ath

MeeMzZ: thanks :)

ĐǻñĎõøðñ, anamethystworld: Ameen...

Ansam: LOL @ you have to know when/who/waht to ask ;p its soo true :D

Big Pearls: thanks :)

Sh7afana: thanks and Ameen...

icon : Just try to communicate I am sure things will turn out to be good :)

Balqees: Mashallah thats the perfect relationship you have with your father...Allah ekhaleekom el ba3ath

M.D: I hope too, thanks and welcome here :)

intlxpatr: thank you .. it feels gr8 to hear from you :)

Lavender: I am sure he is :)

Technogal: I guess thats what is happening now man to man talks :D

ZuZu: thanks and welcome here :)

desertpalms: thanks :) I know ur a dady's girl ;p

Oranjina fadidra: why you think I am not innocent? ha? ;p

Yara: Ameen... I guess man to man and women to women thats how it always works at a later stage :)

Sham3at Al Jillas: I guess that is because fathers are always strict to their sons thinking that they might be spoilt brats :D but we are angels ;p

sugar: aww thats so sweet :)

Abi-Omi-Abi-Oboy: Ameen :)

Squirreliya: Ameen o ajma3een enshallah :)

♥ P-Ella ♥ said...

mmm im guessing about the business man which u posted before..was that man,ur father ? @@

you reminded me alittle of me,I'am more closer to dad since after his retirement but not close to mother which i try i hard to but i duno when..it's good to know that you both are working well together:) hope more growing relationship to both of you and more powers :)

sis4you said...

Happy Birthday Papa! U should give us a cake on his behalf..just like he always asks me to give cake on ur birthday on his behalf!

Get it?

His Sweetheart said...

May Allah keeps him safe for you ;)