Am I Ready For This?
Well I am getting engaged soon...
To who? I don't know...
Have I seen the girl? No
Do I care? WHATEVER....
So my dearest mother has finally seen a girl for me. She likes her and wants me to see her. According to her the girl's family likes me as she has already spoken to them and all I need to go to her house talk to her for few minutes and say 'YES' and there she will be my soul mate. I have never been to any house before and I find it really frustrating to know that I have to wear this and behave in this way like what more matters is the way I look.
I don't know if I am ready for this big step but my friends think I am doing wrong. I have nothing to say on this as I am tired of 'girl - o - sphere'. I have always wanted this big step to come with my wish but after so much of hard luck I have given up all hopes and just to see my parents happy I am doing it the way they like it.
I am too scared. I hope it all goes well and keeps everyone happy.
Wish me luck and need your prayers!
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but for you, who knows, she could bethe ONE.. bas if after you feel not, you should tell your parents how you feel but calmly..
good luck man :)
I hope ena kel shy yekon more than ok !
yes .. I guess u r ready ! and the fear is normal .. It's getting married .. not buying a new bike thingy !
best of luck !
zi-one: got it :D
cat: thanks :)
why don't you meet the girl first and see how that goes?
Ask for more time with her, then tell ur mom to get you her number, talk to her o0 shoof etha feeh qobo0l or not..
don't rush into anything.. Oo Allah ykteb ma feh elkhair..
Best wishes to you, bro***
Good luck and allah yaster
but it is logic that cannot always be the reason for marriage. i think it is ..mm the longest ceremonial event :) includes belief and love, belief is sometimes missed with logic.
but be yourself, ok lets face it :P you should look good! (and since you're a leo, looking good is in your blood ;)) but the dialog can have the greatest deal of the decision making. and you will know it once you meet her :)
good luck wayed :D
and about being ready or not: you should experience this!!
naming it an experience has a nice effect while working on it :)
sorry for the long comment
bestest wishes
greyshorts: Na gone are the days..:D..thanks for the luck I need that!
Deema: Do you know this is the longest one and does make a lot sense to me..It cares that you read it well..So what I have decided is if its meant for me it will happen so going with the flow is the best option :) thanks for the wishes!
goodluck ;)
give us details ba3dain ;p
Allah ywafgik inshala.
Good luck!
I agree with shosho you should go see the girl nothing wrong with she might be the one :) but if you feel differently tell your family dont do it because they are happy about it ...
good luck :D
hey take it easy,, i know its hard you will be on the spot but remember she feels the same way too :P so take it easy be yourself o0 allah ykteb elli feeh el 5eer :)
mm men zeman ma 9aar 3ndna 3res or melcha abii arooooooooooooooooo7 3res lol
Good luck , and i hope everything is going great with u :)
Wanasa...
:)
allah yawafgk inshallah
GOod luck!
Does your Mom know about your previous relationship, and how you still yearn for her? When you get engaged, are you obligated to share any of that information with the woman who is going to marry you? I am sorry to be so snoopy, I just don't understand how this all works.
Fair enough go see her, but don't agree on the spot, thats not fair to you nor the girl..
Anyhows wish you best of luck..
1- Do i REALLY want this and not just to make my family happy?
2- Am i ready to support a wife and kids?
3- Do i have this URGE inside of me to get married?
Think of those while sitting all by yourself and not be influenced by your parents and then decide whether you're ready or not. Because if you're not ready and just wanna get married just to please your parents 3ayal shthanb el bnaya? ehee eb te6aa3 men bait oboha wetro7 bait rayelha. Therefore, she'd expect you to be ready.
shoush: thanks for the advice I will pray 9alat ilisti5ara before I decide :)
pinky: tell me about it...its been one roller coaster days! thanks for the luck :)
outofreach: 7ayach I am sure mom will need a few good dancing girls :D I will give it a thought but I have nothing specific that I am looking in a girl!!
shish: thanks and ajma3een enshallah
enigma: thanks thanks thanks :D
intlxpatr: I know thats too oo oo fast!! All my family knows about my previous relationship but they pretend as if nothing happened!! I am not obligated to share any information. It all depends how much she wants to know about me and tell me about her past :) sure you can ask more Q's..:)
fourme: WBBBB..lol nice to see ya here...I hope it goes well!
rhombus tigress: Which way you wanted?
ms loala: the answer is
Yes I want it not for my family but for me!
Yes I am ready to support family and 1 kid :)
I do have the urge!!
grey: I agree :)
1) she's waaaaaaaay more nervous than you are.
2) Say something. (ANYTHING. she's likely not paying much attention)
3) Trust your heart and take things slooooow. (don't have anyone guilt-ing you into anything...)
4) Take a deep breath.
5) and for goodness sakes '3atir o wear closed shoes.
well after all its up to , to either make the whole wrold happy and be sad yourself or try to make yourself happy and dont give a damn about anyone else .. no one is gonna live your life but yourself ..
Yes I am ready to support family and 1 kid :)
I do have the urge!!"
When those things are true, a marriage can work. The person you are crazy for is NOT always the right person to be married to. Marriage is so much more, and you sound like you know that, and like you are ready.
I know you have been preparing financially - you are so ahead of the rest!
Good luck, Amu. I pray you are happily surprised with this girl, and I pray she has intelligence, compassion and insight as well as maturity, and sweet looks.
navy girl: !!!TBD...
la reine: thanks :)
intlxpatr: Hey..thanks for the luck :)
here's a tip, ask about how she treats il5adam belbait. sure-fire way. (and while you're at it, check how you treat them, you'll find out alot about yourself)
And I mean "agrees" with you, mo ya3ne tabeeha malaak o inta you know you're not that good. Sure you want to get better but you can both aspire to become better together, mako shai eyeek jahez, killa yabeela shughul :)
And make no mistake about this, this is for life. ya wailek in yet 3ogob cham sina o gelt mallait, tara ne3el fog rasek, aw ras'ha if she says it. You work it out. And you solve all problems with love.
O after all this bashing,
in kan lokom saale7 bhelzawaj, Allah ewafegkom :) o wakkel amrek killa l'Alla while doing everything you can.
1.its only your first time and even if this doesn't work out.. there's always next time..
2. if you do not like the girl, don't say yes to please anyone because tathlem nafsik o tathlemha ma3ak.
3. do not base ur decision after the first time only..
4. you forget.. she may not like YOU ;p
5. good luck.. this is a life decision and you should always think and think and think and pray you will make the right choice
6. if all that doesn't work, then mail-order bride :D
hamitaf la bookay: thanks and lol @ the mail-order bride :)
But I wish you all the best!
Then good luck bro. Hope you all the best inshalla ;-)
But if it turns out well, I bet it'll be the best thing ever!
Good luck.