Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Update to the below post

04:00 - A huge ball of fire and its all over after 4 years 10 months and 27 days..... its hard to forget what I have been through. Its hard to forget 5 years of non stop calls even not missing a single day...Its hard to forget the university times I have spent with her....Its hard to forget all the love we both have shared....Its hard to live a live for which I planned my future for....Its hard to start a new story again...and its hard to LOVE again.....

I heard 2 different stories from her sister and a lil from her driver.... So I just dont know which one to trust...But at the end when I went to see her outside her work today she was wearing niqab and she ignored me as if she never knew me as if I never existed there.. According to her sis her brother found out and hit her hard yesterday and all that stuff. She says he took a phone list of all the calls she was calling and receiving on her phone (which is hard to believe as the red carpet company doesn't give you any details for pay as you go lines)...but then if he called my one number why didnt he call the other one which I have been using to call her for the past 2 years? I know something has happened and its true has happend but maybe her sister wants to get me away from her and she added a few more words to the story...... Whatever it is I just wish I come back to a stable life again......I am always loyal and I don't deserve this.....I can't bare pain any more...It's just not giving up....

15 comments:

Oryx said...

I don’t understand, if you booth love each other, and you are both old enough and with jobs why not get married??
Why put yourselves in such a situation?
If you want her and she wants you, and you are loyal to her then what is stopping you?
For me I do believe in destiny, and if you are two are meant to be enshallah it would be…

bb q8 said...

i'm sorry to hear this amu! is there no way you can talk this over with her? with her family?
i would not give up so easily if i were you!

Amu said...

she is from a very strict tribe and I am not...her mother never liked me cuz of the tribe differences...last year her mother passed away and the only person she has in her life is her sister.. she doesnt wants to take a step that distroys her sis life and I agree on tht too... She hasnt lived with her father even once as he divorced her mother when she was expecting her first baby(my ex) last year the father passed awa before the mother. There were four deaths in the family in 1 year. What would you do?? The whole situation just turned against us. Its like as if her life completely changed overnight... What would you do in a such a situation??

Amu said...

bb_q8: If I proceed further both sis will be seperated as both are from different fathers but one mother and no brother from their mother..One sister has her father still alive and the other one(my ex) father passed away last year.the freaky brother who she has never lived with are now coming after her to take her after 24 years.the situation is all so confusing. You hold one end and the other is endless!!!

Oryx said...

I think no matter what, her brother would want el “seter” for his sister, and about separating the sisters enshallah when you get married the relations can be restored, don’t give up on her, she is breaking my heart, lost both her parents and the man she loves, and now she is all alone

bb q8 said...

why would it destroy her sister's life? they can always meet up later... you have your whole life infront of you! don't give up! fight for what you want! ...that is to say if she wants... make sure of what she wants and then go for it!
what are all your options? list all of them and discuss them with her. the problem here as i see it, is that doesn't want to make contact with you?

Dynamic Deeds said...

OMG, AMU I'm sorry your going through all this honestly! Like everyone said, don't give up on her. 5 years aren't 3 days! I'm sure they still mean something to her. If her brother/cousin found out, so? now it is your time to step up and get her legally! Despite the differences if she loves you so dearly, she would fight the world for you.
I say try to contact her, not on her fone tho.
I hope she is alright.
She's i'm guessing 24 years old, she should have the choice to make her own decisions!
I hate it when suddenly people suddenly start acting like FAMILY!
When in most of the cases they are not!

GreY said...

I dont know how the tribe system works in Kuwait .. word of advice ...
1. Take a step back .. she is avoiding you not because she doesnt like you but because she thinks you could be in danger ..
2. Dont rush things now , take it easy ,find a way to contact her , find a way out of Kuwait[ with her God willing ] and let the dust get settled for a while..

But whatever you do , think about her first, every step you take could put her in danger..

Amu said...

It will destroy her sisters life cuz from the first day we stepped in this relation we knew that we cant marry here as it won't be possible and the way to marry is by going out of the country....we set our ideas and goals and I set up a whole future plan on it but it didnt work...I am not giving up hopes but when I went to see her after school today and was facing her she just ignored and walked away all the way to her house she was just not facing me,,, I agree with Grey's comments cuz I am sure thats what she is doing trying to save me. I am not scared but how can I work on it if she doesnt want to...I guess she has given up hopes!

Sis 4 you said...

I am always here bro....

Navy Girl said...

oh amu i'm sorry to hear that wala :( i'm with them .. dont ever let goo .. i mean your deep love those whole 5 years are not just a year passed by .. its each moments you guys had .. i say dont give up on her .. you have no idea whats going on in her life right now .. at least give her the benefit of the doubt .. i wish you both well .. inshala she will be back to you ..

GREY said...

My BIL had the same problem , he rushed up things and was brutally beaten then the girl gave up on him as well ... Dont think she has lost hope .. you got to find a way to contact her , there gotta be a way !
But keep a cool head and try not to follow her for a while, use head instead of heart ...

Chroma-Trauma said...

Subhan Allah.. I'm sorry for you and for that girl. I agree with Grey.. Rational behaviour can lead to unexpected and damaging consequences so don't act based on your emotions. Think about her and about yourself. You need to know the reason behind her drastic change. Don't forget that this is an Ebtela2... so pray alot & ensha-allah you will see the ray.. A ray for your happiness..
Do not stop your life, now, later and even if things didn't work out. If it was ment to be, it will be.. so don't force things. If it was 5air, Allah will bring her back to you and if it was shar, allah will keep her away for you, so believe in God's mercy and his unconditional love to you & to her.
Allah Yesahel 3alik wo 3alaiha .. Allahoma Ameen

Amu said...

chroma-trauma: I am not acting in based on my emotions. I went to see her yesterday and she knows about my pressence there so now I just leave it on her. She knows I was there but she didnt look at me cuz maybe she was scared about her brother following her or something. I will wait for her call, till as long as I can and if she wants to. If she didnt that means she didnt get the chance to call me.
If I go to see her and someone is following her that might bring more troubles to her . . . So just left it on ALLAH.

palo-girl said...

omg im so sorry to hear this.. :(
i would have a lot to say but the commenters have said it all..

Allah yjeeb illi fee il5eir
its ramadan.. put ur hopes into ur prayers